“He can’t just stop loving you. He either does, or never had.”
Another great quote on Twitter.
You may wonder why I wanna post about this. It’s because I see so many people complain about their significant one, respectively their ex-significant one not caring, or stopping loving them.
The quote is right. You can’t just stop loving someone if you really loved them. No one and nothing can make you forget about them if it was true love.
If, however, the person does say that they stopped loving you, then they surely didn’t love you in the first place, or they may be lying to you at the moment.
It is not that easy to just forget about someone, because after all you did spend moments together, whether they were good or bad. This can differ from long relationships to shorter one, but the ‘rule’ is always the same:
If you stopped loving, or you forgot things, it’s either you’re lying now or you lied then.
True love is never forgotten, even if at times it is put aside.
Yes, there are different types of love and the ‘love’ at the beginning of the relationship will not be the same with the ‘love’ at the middle, or the end of it. It is normal.
You think those old people who have been married for ages and are dinosaurs when it comes to marriage and stuff, still love each other the same? No. Their relationship, their marriage is now based on respect most of all, not on passion and that burning love that was at the beginning. You think that after being for so long with someone, you still love them the same way? No. You do love them, but the flame of passion and ‘unknown’ is gone. Now it is a calm love, a love that can be expressed in different ways. A more real love, although it may not seem that way.
Yes, people may say ‘I love you’ to some many others and to some extent it may be true, but not always. Love is different. Love is different from a day to the other. Love is different from a year to another. Love is different from an age to the other. The more time that passes by, the more the intensity of love increases. Another normal thing. People become mature more and more.. and it doesn’t mean that people who are in your life now should compare themselves to people from last year, two years ago, or three and so on. Plus, come on, words are nothing unless they are supported by actions.
It hurts to see a person whom you love, you really do, not understand you fully, not believe in you, not trust you. And yes, you may have made mistakes, but once the other gives you a second chance, that means they should try to get over what you’ve done. It may be hard, but it is not healthy to keep thinking about it. Not healthy for themselves, for yourself, but more importantly for the relationship.
Everyone makes mistakes. Every single person on this Earth. But what matters the most is whether the person learns the lesson, or not and whether the person regrets what happened from the bottom of their heart, or not.
“Love is like a violin. The music may stop now and then, but the strings remain forever.”
(this post has been edited since yesterday and was posted again)